I get a lot of emails of fathers that get hammered by family courts. 

DDJ reads letter of the currently gross injustices fathers face and offers his advice. 

My ex-wife is physically and emotionally abusing the children. Counselors and school teachers are willing to testify. My ex-wife has over 50 times where she had me cover for her parental time while I never have missed a day. My ex-wife works for her divorce attorney. She also has a never-ending steam of money from her family members. In addition, the guardian adlidum works for her attorney which is a conflict if interests.  

What you should know here is that the father in this case was the bread maker and the primary care taker before the divorce. Now he lost the kids and is paying child support and alimony. If CPS was called and they did nothing about negligence of the mother, they can be sued for negligence and win until the children are 21 in most states.

Your ex-wife works for her attorney, she gets food stamps, free day care, free medical, section 8 housing, free insurance, and she get $1500 a month of non-taxable off the books money from the father. 

This is by design to give her a $80,000 a year income, while on paper she is below the poverty line.

Two of the therapist reported the abuses to the court and to you. Those therapist are mandatory reporters to CPS as well. What is interested is the court ignored the recommendations of the therapists for custody. In addition, both attorneys was personal friends with each other and that was never disclosed to the court. In addition, his attorney never got an affidavit and never subpoena any records from the counselors. In addition, the attorney lied to him because the consolers reached out to his attorney and he never responded. In addition, his attorney did not subpoena the GAL (guardian alidum).

The problem with family lawyers is they are lazy and never do discovery.

The other problem in the case is that the GAL is probably friends with the ex-wife’s attorney as well.

Another note is that the mom is on record for parental alienation and that alone is grounds for a modification of parental time. In this case the father should contact CPS and formally request all the service of service, episode reports, contact reports, all data and notes received. Not just from the case worker, but from the case worker’s supervisor as well. Usually when a father contacts CPS, they almost never give up everything. You can get this under the freedom of information act. If they don’t do all of this, you can sue them for failure to do this in civil court; and in most states it covers attorney’s fees as well.  This is the low hanging fruit.  Next you take this money as a war chest to fight your ex-wife.

Next file a bar complaint against all the attorneys and GAL’s that are friends that were not formally disclosed.  Simply look on Facebook or other social media to prove it. This can force a refund of your legal fees in most states because of conflict of interests and refusal to act on evidence of child abuse while representing you. Next make a motion to have the GAL removed from the case for concealing their friendship for a conflict of interest. Request the court to refund all fees from the GAL and all reports from the GAL be stricken from the records to bias and conflict of interest. This including vacating all recommendations from the court based on the GAL’s testimony. 

In addition, you report the GAL to the bar for the conflict of interests as well.

Next, prepare to take this case to the court of appeals on the first day of gathering your evidence together. This means you make sure your attorney makes all the objections orally in hearings and in writing for the case. Most family law attorney make little to no objections.  Remember, no objections means no appeals because the court of appeals will say the record was not protected.  Remember that you jump on your attorney’s shit in writing if they don’t do it. This is because it is grounds for attorney malpractice for negligent representation. 

Next, let’s talk about fraud. It seems that your ex-wife always seems to have a never-ending steam of money from her parents even though she receives countless government welfare benefits on top of child support. This could be welfare fraud. Get your attorney to subpoenas to all your ex-wife’s bank and credit card records everywhere. Also, because the court requires your ex-wife to require you courts bank records, your attorney can subpoena the law office of her attorney for all of their bank records, employee records, and all records related to your ex-wife’s employment. This supersedes attorney client privilege because your ex’s finances are always a credible issue in family court. The fact that she works for her attorney makes her very vulnerable, just know that. This makes her attorney and everyone who works for the firm a fact witness. An attorney cannot represent the client and be a fact witness in the case, this is a bar complaint that an attorney cannot win. 

So have you attorney subpoena all records from her attorney and make a motion to have her attorney and that firm removed from the case for being a fact witness.  

Next file subpoena the welfare office and reconcile those with your child support, alimony, and compensation with the law firm as well as her bank records. You next use that evidence to report her for welfare fraud and request to have her jailed. Next take that evidence to family court and request to have her jailed for fraud as well. 

If you do all of this, everyone will lose their mind and be prepared to pick up you kids.